Increased Stress Tolerance
There will be stress during the reinvention process, however, as we use new tools to help us on our way, we learn to diffuse and dissipate.
You gain a clear understanding of what you want in life, from yourself and others. You also get a lot of practice with honesty. After all, you must be honest with yourself about things you want to keep going forward—and what you want to jettison. Sometimes this involves relationships.
It’s easy to get stuck in friendships with negative energy-draining people who will deride your changes. If people put down your need to become a better, truer you, evaluate your relationship with a clear eye and consider if they’re worth bringing to the new you.
A Bigger Toolbox Of Coping Skills
Reinvention is all about changing for the better. Getting there takes a lot of new skills. You’ll boost your coping techniques and your tolerance for uncertainty.
You learn how to be adaptable in the face of new challenges and that is a life skill that is useful in many ways.
It’s rarely possible to completely control change. Think of personal change as a river. We decide we’d like to do some personal invention and wade out into the mighty flood, but our ability to traverse the river is at first limited. Learning how to navigate change is not unlike learning to swim. The potential for losing control and being overwhelmed by change is one of its scariest aspects.
However, when we’re working to change ourselves, we’re also learning how to manage the changes we’re invoking. For example, if we’re uncomfortable in social settings, we can set a goal of socializing a specific number of times in a week or month. We pace our efforts to change internally by using external events, and we stay in control.
Deliberate living is about more than just being alive. It’s not about changing your job or moving to a new locale. In this case, internal, deliberate changes in who we are drop us out of psychological autopilot and allow us to live passionately, no matter our circumstances. After all, it’s not always possible to wring from external existence the satisfaction we get from deliberate living.
To live but in a frozen, changeless and unsatisfying state without living a life that you’re passionate about means living on autopilot. The days come and go, become years, then change into decades.
There’s nothing particularly special about any one day. Maybe the occasional holiday has some vigor but living as if existence was enough is to live in a colorless world.
Deliberately living, of course, isn’t 100 percent fun. Bad things still happen; boredom is still part of life, and everyone goes off-course sometimes. The difference is that deliberate living embraces personal change.
Much like mindful awareness, deliberate living results from paying attention to our world but most importantly to our innermost selves, our internal processes. Can we become estranged from ourselves? Absolutely. Can we change? Definitely.
Most of us need to forgive someone in our lives for things we’ve done or imagined we’ve done. Reinventing ourselves allow us to say truly “That’s who I was, but I’ve learned and grown. I forgive myself for the things I did before I decided to change.”
Reinventing ourselves allows us to make peace with bad times. Most importantly, it allows us to draw all the good we can from our mistakes and failures and incorporate those lessons into our new self. The lessons learned from our downfalls are exactly what our personal reinvention needs.
You Learn How To Reinvent Yourself
This benefit might seem obvious, but once going through the process of self-transformation for the first time, all future transformations become less scary. With fear removed, it’s easier to explore new options in life.