Do You Have Poor Relationships?

One of the best ways to ascertain your own personal psychological and emotional health is to look at your romantic partner. Are they caring, loving and supportive? Or are they the opposite? They reflect you, and what you feel you deserve. If you are you often unhappy in your relationships and feel stuck in a miserable relationship, this is a sure sign that you need a reinvention.

Breaking up with this person is typically not enough, it’s a short-term solution, a band-aid. Typically, the next person you attract will be the same. In these situations, you need to work on yourself and analyze what is going on within yourself.

When you change yourself, the people you attract will change as well. Seeking the help of a trained mental health professional can be of great help in this area.

Other Signs And Reasons For Reinvention

Those who need or would benefit from reinventing themselves are likely to be depressed or anxious about their current status. They may have recently had a major or tragic event in their lives. They seem to go through the motions without really engaging in life.

They struggle to find real joy or purpose. And they are always questioning their own actions, choices, habits, and abilities. Does any of this sound like you? Are you longing for something new or ready to start living the life you’ve always wanted? Then you are ready to enjoy all the benefits of reinventing yourself.

• You experienced a nasty breakup
• You didn’t reach a goal you had set for yourself
• You have character defects that you want to change
• You have low self-esteem and wish to change this
• You’re approaching a milestone birthday, whether it’s 60, 50, 21, 40 or 30
• It may be a periodic reinvention, perhaps you want to reinvent yourself every five years
• You may just want to explore different areas of your life and aspects of yourself
• You want to grow as a person
• You want to elevate some part of yourself, be it psychological, spiritual or emotional or mental
• You want to develop healthier behavior patterns
• You feel as though you’re stuck in a rut
• You’ve been treading water in life for too long and you’re ready to make a change
• It’s time for a comeback, like a phoenix rising from the flame

“Every day is a new life to a wise man.”
Dale Carnegie

Are You Are A Procrastinator?

This is a common condition for many. It causes you to be stuck and never really accomplish much. If you find yourself always putting things off, and saying tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow…it’s definitely time for a reinvention.

Your Priorities Have Changed

Priorities can change as you age or anytime in life. When you were younger perhaps it was more important to party, go out and have a good time. Now that you are older you may have more important things on your mind like taking care of family and planning for retirement. Or you may simply be thinking about your future and where you are headed. All of this requires a change in mindset, and action steps and so your reinvention can focus on that.
Your priorities are your own, and so you will need to decide what the details of the reinvention will be to reach your end goal.

Bad Habits

Bad habits are ideal catalysts for reinvention…
• Are you a couch potato?
• Do you smoke?
• Do you drink too much?
• Was the last time you ate a vegetable at your middle school cafeteria?

Perhaps a lot of the things you do are “bad for you?” Specifically, is poor self-worth causing you to be self-destructive? Do you sabotage yourself often? This is an ideal reason for reinvention. To grow as a person and love yourself yields many significant benefits.

Who – What – When

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You Make Unhealthy Choices

When you are unhappy or suffer from low self-worth, you are much more likely to make unhealthy choices. Drinking too much alcohol, opting to stay at home instead of exercising, eating to excess, not getting proper sleep, and retreating from your social circles are all signs that you are unhappy, and change is needed.
We all have vices and bad habits that seem to creep up again and again in our lives. The times they are most likely to make an appearance, though, are those when we are at our unhappiest and most vulnerable. These behaviors represent our emotional crutches, the ones we lean on when all else has failed. When you notice these patterns creeping back into your life, it’s time to pay attention.

Envy

Are you often wishing you were your friend, family member or co-=worker? Do you wish you were someone else? This is a telltale sign that you are dissatisfied in some way. Consider what the envy is all about. Write it down. Then consider the source of the envy. Do you really want what those people have or who they are? Pinpoint the reasons for the envy and you will understand where your reinvention should begin.

You Are Disengaged

When you notice that you are detaching from your life, spending more time plodding through than actively participating, you are ready to reinvent yourself. If you spend a good deal of your time just going through the motions or if you lost passion for significant pieces of your life, you are ripe for transformation.
Disengagement can look like a lot of things. If you live your days waiting until it’s time for bed, your week longing for the weekend, and your life biding time until your next vacation, then you are not very engaged in the here and now. You are ready to reinvent.

Signs That You Need A Reinvention

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“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” – George Bernard Shaw

There can be many signs that will tell you that you are ready for or in need of a reinvention. Many people decide to change themselves after a significant life event, such as a divorce, death in the family, a layoff or promotion, having a child, or others. Others result from a long-time nagging feeling of disappointment or unhappiness.

Most people who decide to change themselves feel unfulfilled in some way. If you are not fully present in your life, if you are continually seeking some way to feel better or happier, or if you walk through your days without much focus or aim, it’s time for a real change.

Yes, you say, but doesn’t everyone go through some amount of dissatisfaction from time to time? Should I reinvent myself every time I’m a little bit unhappy? Of course not. You need to be able to look for the signs that tell you that this is a life-defining moment, not just a short-term malaise.
Consequences

One of the main proponents of change is consequences. Has the price (for whatever) become more than you are willing to pay? For example, is your timid or unconfident self-keeping you from promotions at work? Are people who are more confident, and aggressive passing you by? Are you sick and tired of the feelings that arise when this happens? If yes, then you are ready to make the changes needed to transform yourself and get that next promotion.
You Seek Out Distractions

Most people spend some amount of time doing things that are to distract from the mundane chores of daily life. Surfing the internet, binge watching shows, scrolling through social media, and playing video games are all examples of prime distraction activities in the modern age. And, there’s nothing wrong with seeking a little distraction now and then.

A sign you may be ready for a real change in life, though, is when you spend a great deal of time engaged in these types of activities. This is a sign that your life isn’t meeting your needs, and you need change.
Not sure if this is you?

For one week, track precisely how many hours you are engaged in these types of activities. Include how much of this type of disengagement happens while you are at work or when you are spending time with people who should be important in your life (like a spouse).

If you are trying to distract yourself more than 20 percent of the time, your lack of interest in your own life and daily activities is pretty high. You are interested in paying attention to your job, your spouse, or yourself. You are not being fulfilled, so you are distracting yourself from your life.

If you are always daydreaming of a better you, a better life, or a better partner, it’s time to reinvent yourself.
If your focus is on what you want and don’t have more than on what’s right in front of you, you are ready for a change.

“Sometimes you have to kind of die inside in order to rise from your own ashes and believe in yourself and love yourself to become a new person.” Gerard Way

Proactive Reinvention: Purposefully Forging A New You

There are several kinds of reinvention. Proactive reinvention can be the toughest. In proactive reinvention, you are at a place that’s safe and comfortable at that moment. Major life changes aren’t immediately required. You might even be able to keep on coasting just as you are, but that’s not a satisfying place for you anymore.
Even though reinvention can be scary, you still have the desire to do it. Reinvention seems better than where you are. Maybe you are simply tired and unfulfilled with your life, your work, or your relationships. Sometimes all three categories cry out for change.

Proactive reinvention has the advantage of not being urgent in most cases. You can be deliberate in your choices. Change is part of life and choosing to change yourself for the better is a healthy and normal reaction to all the ways we grow and evolve throughout life. Deciding to transform yourself just means you recognize that an evolution is needed at this point in your life and you want to take advantage of it. So, how do you know if you need or are ready for a total reinvention?

How can you be sure that what you are feeling is really worthy of this type of transformation and that it won’t pass soon enough?

Let’s look for some of the most common signs that you need reinventing.

What Leads To Reinventing Yourself?

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“I feel like I have a job to do like I constantly have to reinvent myself. The more I up the ante for myself, the better it is in the long run.” Kevin Hart

Some people find reinvention thrust upon them when life’s circumstances change unexpectedly. Major life events can necessitate the need for significant change so that you may be engaged in reinvention because of substantial life changes. For example, if you suddenly find yourself alone after being married for several decades, you may want a fresh start in life. If your job lays you off in the middle of a financial meltdown, a change could be necessary to get back on your feet. Grief, loss, tragedy, and feeling your mortality are often swift and unexpected reminders that your life can be different if you want it to be. Other times, the need for change can be revealed slowly, with subtle but consistent reminders that you are not happy.

You may realize that you are ready to try something new. It’s not always an “ah-hah” moment that inspires great change. It can be a thousand tiny moments that add up to inspiration.
People reinvent themselves for as many different reasons as there are different people. Reinvention is typically driven by a few prominent emotions:

• Boredom
• Restlessness
• Dissatisfaction
• Even fear

What Does Reinvent Yourself Mean?

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“Don’t ever feel like your best days are behind you, reinvention is the purest form of hope. Make today your best yet.” Phil Wohl

Reinvention occurs when you change yourself in meaningful and lasting ways.

• Reinvention results from a shift in values, beliefs, goals, or needs, and it represents a process that alters your actions and perceptions on a grand scale.
• To reinvent yourself means you engage in a transformational change that alters who you fundamentally are inside.
• When you reinvent yourself, you let go of all the things that are currently holding you back.
• You change habits, goals, routines, and even fundamental values that are holding you back from what you want to achieve in life.
• Reinvention can mean altering the direction of your dreams, expanding your options or possibilities, or forging a path in a new direction.
• If life is presenting you with more questions than answers lately, it may be time for a drastic change. Being emotionally stagnant, altering your path in life, and being given a wake-up call are all reasons people decide that they are ready to reinvent themselves.

Examples
➢ Perhaps up to now you have found yourself doing things that are not in line with your current values, for example, lying to get what you want. Perhaps this dishonesty has caused you consequences that you are no longer willing to accept. Your reinvention would then focus on becoming an honest and sincere per-son.
➢ Perhaps you have suffered from low self-esteem and so your life is unhappy and unfulfilled as a result. Your transformation would then focus on building that self-esteem and reinventing yourself as a person with a high self-worth.
➢ Maybe you find yourself sick of your work and decide to chase an old unattained dream, so you decide to go back to college and get a degree.
➢ Maybe you are a people pleaser and find yourself no longer willing to put others ahead of yourself or your own needs, this is a perfect reason to reinvent yourself.
➢ Milestone ages are great times to consider reinvention. What needs to change when you turn 30, 40, 50, 60 or even 70.
➢ An interesting example is someone who relies too much on romantic relationships for happiness and survival and so the reinvention would entail letting go of such dependency and dependent thinking and to become willing, comfortable and ultimately secure and happy on their own.
These are just a few examples; the list can go on and on and you will need to decide what your reinvention needs to be.
Whatever your reinvention entails, the change necessary to reinvent yourself requires self-discovery, adaptation, hard work, and commitment. You may need to acquire or build new ways of thinking, habits of mind, and daily routines in order to engage in transformational change.
The other thing that sometimes happens when you reinvent yourself is that when you make room for new goals and a new you, you may need to sacrifice something. You will likely want to give up some of the old ideas, habits, and beliefs that have been previously holding you back. Reinventing yourself means you are building a better version of yourself. You are shifting in major ways to make choices that allow you to reach your full potential and become the person you want to be.

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”
Neale Donald Walsch

Are You Stuck?

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It’s never too late to start over!

If you are feeling stuck, or if life has handed you circumstances that dictate you need to make a significant change, it may be time to reinvent yourself. A New Year, a New You!

Reinvention means you get to design or redesign who you are.
But is such change possible? How do you start such a dramatic change process? The truth is that you can change.
You can start over.
You can change yourself.
You can complete yourself.
People do it all the time.
Tap into your hidden potentials, unlock all your capabilities, and revise your dream of a perfect you and future by reinventing yourself.
Reinvention is a journey, it isn’t about leaving yourself behind, it’s about finding your true self.