Steps To Reinvent Yourself

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Like anything important and long-lasting, reinventing yourself works best when you know the best route to take and are prepared for the obstacles you may encounter. These steps to reinvention have been suggested by the very best leaders as well as those who have successfully reinvented themselves.

“I thought, I need to reinvent myself. I want every day of life to be wonderful, fascinating, interesting, creative. And what am I gonna do to make that happen?” – Karen Allen

Start By Accepting Responsibility

The first step to reinventing yourself is accepting that your current circumstances and situation resulted from choices you made and actions you did or did not take. All your past decisions have led you to this point. It’s easy to want to accept the joy and happiness in your life, but it’s much more difficult to accept the poor choices and mistakes willingly. But, until you do, you won’t be able to really change.

While other people and life’s challenges may have contributed to where you are currently, only you are responsible for your happiness and reactions to others.

If your life is not what you want, it is because of you. Why is this such an important step?
Without accepting full responsibility for your life, you cannot choose a new path and be successful in making meaningful change. Accepting responsibility is crucial for being fully self-aware, which is necessary to help you identify what changes you need in your life to reinvent yourself. Acceptance of this kind is the ultimate form of personal power, which is the source of your motivation and strength you will need to make the changes you seek.

To engage in acceptance, ask yourself…

➢ Do I acknowledge at this moment that who I am is all on me?
➢ Do I accept all the choices, both positive and negative, that have led me to today?
➢ Do I appreciate all that is unique and great about me?
➢ Am I ready to let go of the past and move forward to create a new future?
➢ Am I sure that I have full and total control of who I want to become?
➢ Am I ready to stop blaming others for myself and my situations and accept my personal power?

Only when you accept these possibilities and your responsibility in what has come before and what is ahead can you hope to reinvent yourself successfully.

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What It Takes To Reinvent Yourself

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“If you are not where you want to be, do not quit, instead reinvent yourself and change your habits.” – Eric Thomas

Reinventing yourself is not something that happens overnight, nor is it something to be undertaken without forethought or consideration. You are seeking to transform yourself, which can take time, depending on its focus.
Those that are most successful at reinventing themselves have some common characteristics, habits, and mindsets that help them to achieve their goals. Here’s what it takes to reinvent yourself.

Resilience

Along your journey to a new you, there will be problems, obstacles, setbacks, and even some failures. These are guaranteed to occur and being able to get back up after you’ve been knocked down in life is what is known as resilience.

Being resilient is essential for reinventing yourself, as it provides you with the efficacy and strength to overcome these setbacks, instead of giving in and settling for less than you want in life.

Self-Image

If you want to reinvent yourself, you must think of yourself in a new way. Creating and honing a new self-image is necessary for the reinvention process. You are going to need a clear image and notion of what you are trying to achieve in this process, and visualizing and articulating who you want to be at the end of your journey will help you determine the best way to get there. Your new self-image serves as a consistent reminder, too, of why you are choosing to change your life.

“Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over.” Guy Finley

Motivation

Change like reinventing yourself takes time and energy. You can’t stop being yourself or living your life to focus all your energy and commitment on this transformational process, after all. You still have to go to work, cook dinner, and pay your bills.

Finding the time necessary for the extra activities and habit-building required to become a new you mean you need to dig deep into your motivational reserves to stick with it. Staying positive, tracking your success, and understanding your goals can all help you remain motivated throughout the process.

Support

While self-reliance is important, accomplishing transformation requires support from others. A supportive team can provide you with people to lead on, supplement your motivation when it starts to wane, and offer advice when you need new ideas.

It’s also difficult to make a significant change when the others in your life do not understand or support your efforts.

Realistic Expectations

It is crucial that you understand the real, transformational change is not going to happen overnight, and there may be things that you may never be able to achieve. Keeping your expectations high but realistic can help you reach for the stars while also remaining grounded in reality. Set yourself up for success with the right expectations.

Humility

Changing yourself can bring up a lot of issues and emotions about the person you were as well as who you want to be. And when you start to achieve some amount of success in your reinvention, it can be easy to feel like you have it all figured out. Don’t allow positive results to make you complacent, and always remember that no one is perfect, so everyone has room for improvement.

Now that we know what it takes to reinvent yourself, it’s time to get down to the nitty-gritty. What are the actual steps to making transformation change in your life?

Courage and Fearlessness

Any type of change requires some courage. As you head into the unknown and open new doors you must be fearless. You must take risks and believe in yourself and the process.

“Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most.” Buddha

Increased Stress Tolerance

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Increased Stress Tolerance

There will be stress during the reinvention process, however, as we use new tools to help us on our way, we learn to diffuse and dissipate.

Clarity

You gain a clear understanding of what you want in life, from yourself and others. You also get a lot of practice with honesty. After all, you must be honest with yourself about things you want to keep going forward—and what you want to jettison. Sometimes this involves relationships.

It’s easy to get stuck in friendships with negative energy-draining people who will deride your changes. If people put down your need to become a better, truer you, evaluate your relationship with a clear eye and consider if they’re worth bringing to the new you.

A Bigger Toolbox Of Coping Skills

Reinvention is all about changing for the better. Getting there takes a lot of new skills. You’ll boost your coping techniques and your tolerance for uncertainty.

Adaptation

You learn how to be adaptable in the face of new challenges and that is a life skill that is useful in many ways.

Master Change

It’s rarely possible to completely control change. Think of personal change as a river. We decide we’d like to do some personal invention and wade out into the mighty flood, but our ability to traverse the river is at first limited. Learning how to navigate change is not unlike learning to swim. The potential for losing control and being overwhelmed by change is one of its scariest aspects.

However, when we’re working to change ourselves, we’re also learning how to manage the changes we’re invoking. For example, if we’re uncomfortable in social settings, we can set a goal of socializing a specific number of times in a week or month. We pace our efforts to change internally by using external events, and we stay in control.

Live Deliberately

Deliberate living is about more than just being alive. It’s not about changing your job or moving to a new locale. In this case, internal, deliberate changes in who we are drop us out of psychological autopilot and allow us to live passionately, no matter our circumstances. After all, it’s not always possible to wring from external existence the satisfaction we get from deliberate living.

To live but in a frozen, changeless and unsatisfying state without living a life that you’re passionate about means living on autopilot. The days come and go, become years, then change into decades.

There’s nothing particularly special about any one day. Maybe the occasional holiday has some vigor but living as if existence was enough is to live in a colorless world.

Deliberately living, of course, isn’t 100 percent fun. Bad things still happen; boredom is still part of life, and everyone goes off-course sometimes. The difference is that deliberate living embraces personal change.
Much like mindful awareness, deliberate living results from paying attention to our world but most importantly to our innermost selves, our internal processes. Can we become estranged from ourselves? Absolutely. Can we change? Definitely.

Forgiveness

Most of us need to forgive someone in our lives for things we’ve done or imagined we’ve done. Reinventing ourselves allow us to say truly “That’s who I was, but I’ve learned and grown. I forgive myself for the things I did before I decided to change.”

Reinventing ourselves allows us to make peace with bad times. Most importantly, it allows us to draw all the good we can from our mistakes and failures and incorporate those lessons into our new self. The lessons learned from our downfalls are exactly what our personal reinvention needs.

You Learn How To Reinvent Yourself

This benefit might seem obvious, but once going through the process of self-transformation for the first time, all future transformations become less scary. With fear removed, it’s easier to explore new options in life.

Build Your Confidence

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Build Your Confidence

Improving your skills, habits, and knowledge can help you attain more confidence in yourself. A wonderful outcome of reinventing yourself is learning to love and feel confident about the person you are choosing to become through this process. The more you grow and have success though reinventing yourself, the more confident you’ll become that you can achieve whatever you put your mind toward in life.

Become The Best Version Of Yourself

When you transform your life, you don’t want to make changes that cause you pain or make your life worse. No! You make changes for the better. You learn to be the best version of yourself, and you craft the best version of your life that you can create. You can reach your full potential in whatever aspects of your life you choose.
Many people find that reinvention exposes them to new people and ideas, which broadens their thinking. Some report healthier relationships and more success in their professional lives. Others notice a reduction in mental health problems like depression and anxiety. Whatever benefits you experience will be well worth the effort. So, do you have what it takes to reinvent yourself? Let’s find out.

Improve Your Health

Reinventing yourself is good for your health. Change is useful for your body, as it releases happy hormones like dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin. If you don’t feel well, that’s all the more reason to work hard at changing your life, as the process can help you feel better.

Learn To Face Fear

Fear is the first roadblock to personal change. It’s not that easy to change one’s self and life without giving up something you’ve already got. As you continue in the process, you learn to still and manage your fears. You learn how to go forward even if your plan is in constant development.

Reinvention requires embracing uncertainty. It means getting comfortable with discomfort. Doing new things, trying new ways to be is scary! Allowing fear to stop us from changing is always the biggest block to proactive reinvention. Always.

Unlike reactive reinvention, when you must make big changes or face even worse situations than self-renewal, proactive reinvention seems optional when we get scared, so we have the option to retreat into safety. Safety is great. However, clinging to the safety of the familiar ensures you will never reinvent yourself.

Regeneration of the self requires living with fear, too. Consider as an example the situation of leaving one career for another, more ideal career. Common wisdom says you must have another job before leaving your current job. That wisdom in this situation kills any chance of getting that ideal job.

It’s very hard, maybe impossible, to prepare for a completely new profession while working a full-time job. A dentist who leaves her job for another job as a dentist has changed locales but has not at all reinvented herself.
Making a jump from the known into the unknown safely, with no risks, doesn’t happen. There is always some element of risk. Learning to live with risk in order to get something you dearly want is one of the biggest rewards of reinventing yourself.

The Benefits Of Reinventing Yourself

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“There’s nothing more addictive or incredible in life than reinventing yourself and allow yourself to be different every day.” – Thalia

The benefits to your life from reinventing yourself are numerous, and we can’t even anticipate all the goodness you are likely to see. You probably cannot even imagine who great your life can be, at this time, if you learn to live to your full potential.

While it is natural to assume that achieving successes and reaching your goals will bring you happiness, it is also like your life will enjoy many other benefits from this process, as well. Here are just a few.

Develop Your Self-Awareness

Reinventing yourself means you must start with an honest appraisal of your capacity, dreams, and values. Through the process, you become more aware of yourself, get to know almake upparts that makeup who you are and enhance your self-awareness. Reinvention can make you more aware of your strengths, weaknesses, habits, and mindsets, including those that are holding you back from realizing your dreams.

Design Your Own Future

When you are reinventing yourself, you are designing the life and person you want to become. You make choices about the goals that are most important to you, and
you then craft daily decisions to form emotional, social, mental, and physical choices. Reinvention is just consciously making new choices for yourself, which allows you to craft the life you have always wanted.

54 Areas Of Personal Development – Get Inspired

Here is a list of areas of personal development. Use this list to consider your own self, where change may be needed and for general inspiration. This is a great way to pinpoint your reinvention needs.

1. Confidence
2. Assertiveness
3. Self-Respect
4. Career
5. Goal Setting And Achievement
6. Focus
7. Self Esteem
8. Eliminate Self-Sabotaging Behavior
9. Change Bad Habits
10. Limiting Beliefs
11. Productivity
12. Mindfulness
13. Inner Peace
14. Dealing With Change
15. Enjoying Life
16. Control Emotions
17. Processing Feelings
18. Dealing With Failure
19. Self-actualization
20. Attitude
21. Time Management
22. Problem Solving
23. Dealing With Adversity
24. Self-Reliance
25. Emotional Intelligence
26. Independence
27. Overcome Boredom
28. Stress Management
29. Belief in Self
30. Defining Values
31. Self-awareness/Self-knowledge
32. Self-Care
33. Motivation
34. Communication
35. Strengths/Weaknesses
36. Self-Understanding
37. Mood Management
38. Manage Difficult People
39. Procrastination
40. Leadership
41. Clarity
42. Potential
43. Optimism/Positivity/Happiness
44. Organization/Efficiency
45. Relationships
46. Purpose/Passion/Vision
47. Assertiveness
48. Fulfillment
49. Attitude
50. Life Purpose
51. Finding Wholeness
52. Balance
53. Health and Wellness
54. Financial Freedom

“This is life. Things get taken away. You will learn to start over many times – or you will be useless.”
Mitch Albom, The Magic Strings of Frankie Presto

Do You Have Poor Relationships?

One of the best ways to ascertain your own personal psychological and emotional health is to look at your romantic partner. Are they caring, loving and supportive? Or are they the opposite? They reflect you, and what you feel you deserve. If you are you often unhappy in your relationships and feel stuck in a miserable relationship, this is a sure sign that you need a reinvention.

Breaking up with this person is typically not enough, it’s a short-term solution, a band-aid. Typically, the next person you attract will be the same. In these situations, you need to work on yourself and analyze what is going on within yourself.

When you change yourself, the people you attract will change as well. Seeking the help of a trained mental health professional can be of great help in this area.

Other Signs And Reasons For Reinvention

Those who need or would benefit from reinventing themselves are likely to be depressed or anxious about their current status. They may have recently had a major or tragic event in their lives. They seem to go through the motions without really engaging in life.

They struggle to find real joy or purpose. And they are always questioning their own actions, choices, habits, and abilities. Does any of this sound like you? Are you longing for something new or ready to start living the life you’ve always wanted? Then you are ready to enjoy all the benefits of reinventing yourself.

• You experienced a nasty breakup
• You didn’t reach a goal you had set for yourself
• You have character defects that you want to change
• You have low self-esteem and wish to change this
• You’re approaching a milestone birthday, whether it’s 60, 50, 21, 40 or 30
• It may be a periodic reinvention, perhaps you want to reinvent yourself every five years
• You may just want to explore different areas of your life and aspects of yourself
• You want to grow as a person
• You want to elevate some part of yourself, be it psychological, spiritual or emotional or mental
• You want to develop healthier behavior patterns
• You feel as though you’re stuck in a rut
• You’ve been treading water in life for too long and you’re ready to make a change
• It’s time for a comeback, like a phoenix rising from the flame

“Every day is a new life to a wise man.”
Dale Carnegie

Are You Are A Procrastinator?

This is a common condition for many. It causes you to be stuck and never really accomplish much. If you find yourself always putting things off, and saying tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow…it’s definitely time for a reinvention.

Your Priorities Have Changed

Priorities can change as you age or anytime in life. When you were younger perhaps it was more important to party, go out and have a good time. Now that you are older you may have more important things on your mind like taking care of family and planning for retirement. Or you may simply be thinking about your future and where you are headed. All of this requires a change in mindset, and action steps and so your reinvention can focus on that.
Your priorities are your own, and so you will need to decide what the details of the reinvention will be to reach your end goal.

Bad Habits

Bad habits are ideal catalysts for reinvention…
• Are you a couch potato?
• Do you smoke?
• Do you drink too much?
• Was the last time you ate a vegetable at your middle school cafeteria?

Perhaps a lot of the things you do are “bad for you?” Specifically, is poor self-worth causing you to be self-destructive? Do you sabotage yourself often? This is an ideal reason for reinvention. To grow as a person and love yourself yields many significant benefits.

Who – What – When

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You Make Unhealthy Choices

When you are unhappy or suffer from low self-worth, you are much more likely to make unhealthy choices. Drinking too much alcohol, opting to stay at home instead of exercising, eating to excess, not getting proper sleep, and retreating from your social circles are all signs that you are unhappy, and change is needed.
We all have vices and bad habits that seem to creep up again and again in our lives. The times they are most likely to make an appearance, though, are those when we are at our unhappiest and most vulnerable. These behaviors represent our emotional crutches, the ones we lean on when all else has failed. When you notice these patterns creeping back into your life, it’s time to pay attention.

Envy

Are you often wishing you were your friend, family member or co-=worker? Do you wish you were someone else? This is a telltale sign that you are dissatisfied in some way. Consider what the envy is all about. Write it down. Then consider the source of the envy. Do you really want what those people have or who they are? Pinpoint the reasons for the envy and you will understand where your reinvention should begin.

You Are Disengaged

When you notice that you are detaching from your life, spending more time plodding through than actively participating, you are ready to reinvent yourself. If you spend a good deal of your time just going through the motions or if you lost passion for significant pieces of your life, you are ripe for transformation.
Disengagement can look like a lot of things. If you live your days waiting until it’s time for bed, your week longing for the weekend, and your life biding time until your next vacation, then you are not very engaged in the here and now. You are ready to reinvent.

Signs That You Need A Reinvention

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“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” – George Bernard Shaw

There can be many signs that will tell you that you are ready for or in need of a reinvention. Many people decide to change themselves after a significant life event, such as a divorce, death in the family, a layoff or promotion, having a child, or others. Others result from a long-time nagging feeling of disappointment or unhappiness.

Most people who decide to change themselves feel unfulfilled in some way. If you are not fully present in your life, if you are continually seeking some way to feel better or happier, or if you walk through your days without much focus or aim, it’s time for a real change.

Yes, you say, but doesn’t everyone go through some amount of dissatisfaction from time to time? Should I reinvent myself every time I’m a little bit unhappy? Of course not. You need to be able to look for the signs that tell you that this is a life-defining moment, not just a short-term malaise.
Consequences

One of the main proponents of change is consequences. Has the price (for whatever) become more than you are willing to pay? For example, is your timid or unconfident self-keeping you from promotions at work? Are people who are more confident, and aggressive passing you by? Are you sick and tired of the feelings that arise when this happens? If yes, then you are ready to make the changes needed to transform yourself and get that next promotion.
You Seek Out Distractions

Most people spend some amount of time doing things that are to distract from the mundane chores of daily life. Surfing the internet, binge watching shows, scrolling through social media, and playing video games are all examples of prime distraction activities in the modern age. And, there’s nothing wrong with seeking a little distraction now and then.

A sign you may be ready for a real change in life, though, is when you spend a great deal of time engaged in these types of activities. This is a sign that your life isn’t meeting your needs, and you need change.
Not sure if this is you?

For one week, track precisely how many hours you are engaged in these types of activities. Include how much of this type of disengagement happens while you are at work or when you are spending time with people who should be important in your life (like a spouse).

If you are trying to distract yourself more than 20 percent of the time, your lack of interest in your own life and daily activities is pretty high. You are interested in paying attention to your job, your spouse, or yourself. You are not being fulfilled, so you are distracting yourself from your life.

If you are always daydreaming of a better you, a better life, or a better partner, it’s time to reinvent yourself.
If your focus is on what you want and don’t have more than on what’s right in front of you, you are ready for a change.

“Sometimes you have to kind of die inside in order to rise from your own ashes and believe in yourself and love yourself to become a new person.” Gerard Way