“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” – George Bernard Shaw
There can be many signs that will tell you that you are ready for or in need of a reinvention. Many people decide to change themselves after a significant life event, such as a divorce, death in the family, a layoff or promotion, having a child, or others. Others result from a long-time nagging feeling of disappointment or unhappiness.
Most people who decide to change themselves feel unfulfilled in some way. If you are not fully present in your life, if you are continually seeking some way to feel better or happier, or if you walk through your days without much focus or aim, it’s time for a real change.
Yes, you say, but doesn’t everyone go through some amount of dissatisfaction from time to time? Should I reinvent myself every time I’m a little bit unhappy? Of course not. You need to be able to look for the signs that tell you that this is a life-defining moment, not just a short-term malaise.
One of the main proponents of change is consequences. Has the price (for whatever) become more than you are willing to pay? For example, is your timid or unconfident self-keeping you from promotions at work? Are people who are more confident, and aggressive passing you by? Are you sick and tired of the feelings that arise when this happens? If yes, then you are ready to make the changes needed to transform yourself and get that next promotion.
You Seek Out Distractions
Most people spend some amount of time doing things that are to distract from the mundane chores of daily life. Surfing the internet, binge watching shows, scrolling through social media, and playing video games are all examples of prime distraction activities in the modern age. And, there’s nothing wrong with seeking a little distraction now and then.
A sign you may be ready for a real change in life, though, is when you spend a great deal of time engaged in these types of activities. This is a sign that your life isn’t meeting your needs, and you need change.
Not sure if this is you?
For one week, track precisely how many hours you are engaged in these types of activities. Include how much of this type of disengagement happens while you are at work or when you are spending time with people who should be important in your life (like a spouse).
If you are trying to distract yourself more than 20 percent of the time, your lack of interest in your own life and daily activities is pretty high. You are interested in paying attention to your job, your spouse, or yourself. You are not being fulfilled, so you are distracting yourself from your life.
If you are always daydreaming of a better you, a better life, or a better partner, it’s time to reinvent yourself.
If your focus is on what you want and don’t have more than on what’s right in front of you, you are ready for a change.
“Sometimes you have to kind of die inside in order to rise from your own ashes and believe in yourself and love yourself to become a new person.” Gerard Way